Wednesday, October 8, 2008

How do you deal with the fact, your mother is dying of lung cancer and her days have been numbered


How do you deal with the fact, your mother is dying of lung cancer and her days have been numbered?
My mother was diagnosed with stage 3b large cell lung cancer. She has been undergoing chemo and radiation treatments for several weeks now. She is weak and just a shell of who she used to be. How am I supposed to keep smiling when I am watching her fade into death?
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You aren't supposed to. Don't be afraid to show ur true feelings.. No one in the world expects you to act happy. Now is the time to be honest so you have no regrets on what you should have done differently. My uncle died of lung cancer and it was very very hard and sad at first, but after watching him suffer for so long, you just want them to pass so they are out of pain and not suffering. You will miss her terribly, but you will also know that she's not suffering. I'm not saying you will be happy to see her go and want this, but if there is no chance for recovery then comfort in knowing she's no longer in pain is a very powerful thing.
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make sure you have somebody to talk to who you are comfortable sharing your feelings with and let it go to them and then just be that rock for your mom that she needs at this point and make sure she knows how awesome of a person she is and what she means to you. It will make you feel better and it will let her go happy.
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I'm really sorry to here this. Try looking at in the way that after your mom is gone that she is in a great place and no longer in all the pain. Time will heal your pain but not your soul. Remember the good times you had with her and the lessons she taught you. Hope this helps.
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Enjoy all the possible days left you have with her! She will be like a sister/best friend to you! Tell her your feelings!She will be happy to spend her last moments with you! Tell her everything will be okay Faith can be changed!! My father was on the verge of death also as a christian we prayed and believed look to say he is alive today and happy!
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Big hugs to you sweet heart. First of all it's okay to feel sad. And scared, and angry at that $%^&*@!! disease. Trust me a lot of people have said those cuss words and a lot more. I am a cancer survivor, and I've lost good friends and family to that curse, so I've been there. It does help to have a support person. Perhaps a friend or a family member you trust. Right now what you need is a palliative care support team. This can be either hospice based or home based. Above all spend every waking minute you can with your mom. She needs you. Ask her nurses to teach you how to do practical nursing care for her.Make a dvd of family members for her. Ask those who live far away to video their feeling for her and burn them to a DVD or CD. A scrap book or a quilt would be much appreciated. My mother spent 45 days in a burn ward. It was very therapeutic and satisfying to help in her care. Dressing changes, hydra bath, haircare. It didn't matter to me. Nor did the hour of the day. I was her caregiver for 17 years. It was physically and emotionally hard but would I change it. Not on your life!!




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